tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1238046606802938092.post536184947891453704..comments2023-09-05T04:17:31.931-07:00Comments on Loaf of bread, container of milk, stick of butter: What Sex Toy Parties Might Tell Us About Race/Ethnicity, Culture, Socio-Economics and Birth OrderMark Boleshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13532418813546735560noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1238046606802938092.post-14476381981402186292010-04-10T08:21:21.228-07:002010-04-10T08:21:21.228-07:00Sorry. Forgot to add this one bit: White people st...Sorry. Forgot to add this one bit: White people still have the privilege of moving back and forth between the most groups. KWIM? That's why I am always incensed when Americans (most of the time White Americans) insist on other communities opening up the doors to, e.g. sacred and private spaces to them.The Absence of Alternativeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05395320989489560756noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1238046606802938092.post-53610579585216620912010-04-10T08:18:18.941-07:002010-04-10T08:18:18.941-07:00First of all, thanks for the links to Sure Things ...First of all, thanks for the links to Sure Things and SNL skit. Good old memories! There is a lot to digest and "Discuss" on what you brought up in this post. 2 things for now (and already running long!): I do find many of the "white" people have the so-called "white polite" attitude. Don't yell at me for saying this. A lady of Greek descent taught me this term when I tried to explain what my in-law families are like, then she said, "Oh, they are white polite." I couldn't stop laughing. Because it says so much... Polite with a distance. yeah, we are ok with you being here, but don't expect us to be all chummy and start a party with you. It may have nothing to do with me being non-white. It's that "repression". Don't talk to random strangers. Don't randomly "adopt" people into your close circuit. Hope I am making any sense. Secondly, I do believe that the line will be drawn more and more across socio-economic lines. The key is to know how to behave in different groups. I have heard many African Americans (or do you prefer Blacks?) talking about how they behave differently in and outside of the Black community. Ervin Goffman's seminal book "The Presentation of Self in Everyday Life" still applies today, and actually, I believe even more so in this allegedly "integrated" society we live in. I will return your favor and offer up this link to Wanda Sykes: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EK2iPGy1vYs<br /><br />And you lucked out, because I have a PhD too. ;-)The Absence of Alternativeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05395320989489560756noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1238046606802938092.post-20132364258898021092010-03-19T15:26:58.543-07:002010-03-19T15:26:58.543-07:00Wow. Truly interesting and provocative--though I g...Wow. Truly interesting and provocative--though I get it. What I would want to know as a marketer is what does this all mean to me? Also a question that might be raised among those you raise at the end is what does all this mean to civility. Several campuses I know are on civility campaigns--treating people with respect and what that means. Is that an uptight old idea? --Marcia Cantarella, PhDMarcia Cantarellahttp://www.cantarellaconsulting.comnoreply@blogger.com